Its okay not to have Oral sex

Sure, it’s popular. But that doesn’t mean you have to do it.


I love receiving oral S3@.x:’, but it hasn’t always been that way.
When I first became S3@.x:’ually active, if you’d have asked me my opinion about guys going down on me, I would have proudly proclaimed “I hate getting oral S3@.x:’!” 
The truth was, I had yet to feel comfortable enough with a S3@.x:’ual partner to truly enjoy oral S3@.x:’
But I am not you. 
You are not me. 
Maybe you’ve been having S3@.x:’ for years and you still don’t like oral S3@.x:’. 
Maybe you’re just starting out, but you already know that oral S3@.x:’ isn’t something you want to be on the receiving end of.
Either way, there’s nothing wrong with your choice.
Be proud of what you know about your body and what your body wants. 
In a way, oral S3@.x:’ is way more intimate than S3@.x:’.
People laugh when I say this, but in many respects, I find receiving oral S3@.x:’ to be incredibly intimate, sometimes even more so than S3@.x:’ itself. 
As women, we often feel self-conscious about our V@.g!nas.
That’s because we live in a society where we are taught that our V@.g!nas are dirty and bad. 
They are too hairy or too wet or too dry or too smelly. 
Inviting a man or woman to put their mouth and nose near and in your V@.g!na requires an incredible measure of trust and confidence. 
It’s an incredibly intimate act, and if you aren’t comfortable with it, that makes a lot of sense.

Just because something is popular, doesn’t mean you have to like it. 
I have a policy. 
I don’t yuck somebody else’s yum.
While I like getting oral S3@.x:’, I respect your right NOT to like getting oral S3@.x:’. You shouldn’t ever feel ashamed of that. 
Oral S3@.x:’ is a part of pop culture, it’s in a million songs lately, and all over the internet. 
Deciding you don’t like it might make you feel shy or embarrassed.
Don’t be. 
It’s your choice, and just because it isn’t the one you see promoted on TV, that doesn’t mean it’s one you can’t be proud of. 

Not liking oral S3@.x:’ doesn’t give your partner an excuse to neglect you S3@.x:’ually.
If you don’t enjoy receiving oral S3@.x:’, you do need to talk to your partner about it.
Explain why you don’t like it. 
For some women, it’s a sensitivity issue. 
Some people have very sensitive clitorises.
Whatever your reason, tell your partner so they know they haven’t done anything wrong.
You also need to talk to your partner about other ways to help you have a successful org@.$m.
Don’t let your distaste for one kind of S3@.x:’ keep you from having the org@.$mic life you deserve.  

Learning what works for us and what doesn’t is key to mastering our S3@.x:’uality as we continue to grow. 
I think that we need to treat out bodies experimentally. 
Over time, through trial and error, we learn what works for us S3@.x:’ually and what doesn’t work. 
Accepting and embracing your S3@.x:’uality this way is, I think, a healthy part of your adult development. 
Don’t let others try to change your mind about oral S3@.x:’ unless you are open to further research. 
You are the master of your body.
You set the rules.
You decide what feels good and what doesn’t.
You decide when to experiment and take risks.
You decide when to stand your ground and say no. 
You are only given one body in this life. 
Treat it with respect, be kind to yourself, and your S3@.x:’ life and love life are sure to follow suit. 
And if you don’t like getting oral S3@.x:’, that’s TOTALLY okay. 

Infections that are less frequently passed on through oral sex include:
  • chlamydia.
  • HIV.
  • hepatitis A, hepatitis B and hepatitis C.
  • genital warts.
  • pubic lice.

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